As a woman, there have probably been times when you felt like you were invisible. I have noticed this happening to many women, especially after they reach a certain age. Additionally, as you grow older, society seems to lose interest in you, all because of your age. Although we have experienced significant changes, ageism still poses a big issue – coming to the hard truth that we’ll all experience it at one point or another.
Instead of calling it out, there is always something that you can do about it. Being a woman of your age, if you have come face to face with such behavior, try to counteract it as much as possible.
Also, I understand how you must have felt at a certain point – but remember that midlife invisibility is a choice to a certain extent. So, if you have been feeling like this, ask yourself why. Maybe it is something a part of you has always felt or has been afraid of. Either way, I am here to encourage you and let you know that regardless of age, it is all about your mindset.
Today, I have a few tips for you as a way to avoid feeling invisible. Self-care in midlife is important, so take a look at the tips below and make the most out of it!
1. There is no need to hide your age
After turning 40, 50, or even 60, there is no need to hide that from anyone. Hiding it will only justify the midlife invisibility you already experience. Instead, state your age publicly, and be proud of yourself! You will immediately notice how liberating it feels to say your age out loud. However old you are, don’t be afraid to show it! Wear your years proudly.
2. Allow your charisma to shine through
The way you smile, the way you talk, the way you laugh, and everything about you is your trademark. Use it and let it shine through with every person you communicate with. Once you accept yourself, flaws and all, you will learn to control your charisma and let it all outside. People will start noticing you more, so being dismissed in groups or at work will be a thing of the past.
3. Get a sense of your personal style
This is important since, as you age, you develop a certain image for yourself that becomes recognizable for your persona. In contrast, midlife invisibility comes when you stop focusing on your style. In this case, you can stop following trends and seek out things you like! No matter how you dress, your style must reflect who you are as a person. Caring for yourself is important. The only way to stand out in a crowd is to feel comfortable in your skin.
4. Find the purpose of your life
It does sound like quite a challenge, doesn’t it? Some women have their lives figured out from an early age, and some go from one day to the next, not knowing what it brings. Both options are perfectly acceptable. But, if you don’t feel seen, then there must be something more about it. Be a loud woman about her interests and dreams – the kind that is particularly difficult to ignore. If you still haven’t found your purpose in life, think about what you would do if you did not need to make money from it – something that makes you truly satisfied.
5. Set a goal – and achieve it!
Self-care in midlife means not giving up on your dreams and goals. Having an unfulfilled passion will make you feel more youthful and energized, giving you something to look forward to and helping you express yourself more efficiently. Getting a sense of that youthful spirit where everything seems possible is exactly what you need! Furthermore, doing something out of the ordinary can help you stray from the midlife invisibility you are feeling. If you don’t feel seen, set a goal, achieve it, and see how an accomplishment will make you stronger, more positive, and happier!
6. Keep like-minded people around you
There has always been something more to people than age, and that is the way they think. Whether you are 35 or 55, you can connect with people who are younger or older than you. All you need to do is find yourself in a group of people with the same attitude toward life. Sharing the same energy means a lot in the long run, so when looking for new friends, look beyond the number of candles on their birthday cake. Leaning into meaningful relationships will always result in a loving community and support.
7. Open up your heart
I think that every person in this world has experienced their fair share of challenges. Going past them, and creatively resolving them is, ultimately, what makes us strong and more experienced. On the other hand, those challenges make women feel unseen and keep them in the background.
Taking some time to go through every challenge can help you keep your mental state intact and give you that wonderful warrior look – making you stand out from the crowd! All of this means opening up your heart. Self-care in midlife requires you to be more accepting and embrace uncertainties with open arms. In turn, this can help you have a strong sense of self. Such action will make you mentally, physically, and emotionally more attractive.
What I have come to realize is that you can’t be confident at any age, but you can do your best to try to stay away from the shadow. Each year has its ups and downs, and it all boils down to how you react to them. Nevertheless, knowing all of this gives you quite an advantage, don’t you think?
Go out, claim the confidence you deserve, and step away from the midlife invisibility you have been facing! There is no better way to do it than the present!
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